Improvement is not even a fleeting thought to the other. When your partner says something like, How was that? Try saying, Not as good as it could be. Find out what happens.

1. Correct Kissing Is a Team Effort.
It takes both of you, not just one. If something goes wrong on your end (and it will), no biggie. Your partner will also make mistakes. Just note it in your head. Learn and move on.

2. Discuss Kissing.
Specifically the effect each kiss has on you and your likes and dislikes. Some people are unable to express what is wonderful. It is even harder talking about what is wrong with a kiss. But to improve, you must try.

3. Keep Laughing.
Kisses that are bad get even worse. Horrible ones get horribler. Once you have found the worst kisses, just laugh and proceed to the next task.

4. Change Something as you Practice.
Anything. Error is good, not bad. It reveals when something is off the intended mark. Awareness of it stimulates the brain to generate change. A light goes on and the brain attempts to bring about a new event to correct the error. You have to make mistakes until mistakes do not worry you.

5. Try different Kisses Until Your Special Kiss is Found.
But do not tell your special person that they give you the special kiss you had in mind. Keep experimenting and return to this special kiss at some later time. Who knows, you might surprise yourself and discover more than one special kiss along the way.

In a recent sex and human nature study the first thing that goes in a relationship is usually communication followed by the lack of intimacy, less kissing, touching, holding and the end result is less sex. Divorce is not far behind.

There are many couples who still relate sexually without a lot of foreplay but then the act becomes automatic, the jump in the sack is over during the commercial then it is back to Jay Leno. This is what Americans jokingly call a quickie. No one comes away feeling fulfilled, love or wanted, just physically relived, but you do not need a partner if this is all that sex has come to represent.

Great kissing and great foreplay = great sex. It is a simple equation, and it does not take a mathematical genius to figure it out.